The mind of a child can easily be fractured to the level that he either denies certain behavior or as in my case; learn to adapt and create an avenue of escape. For me because of the influence of my brother we learned that this could be accomplished in several ways. One way was through imaginary friends which augment the perception of what is real both and play out in routines which can be either passive or even aggressive in nature. I chose a combination of the two and while growing up in a lower middle class neighborhood in Chicago and in some ways I decided to fight back.
I encourage others to discuss their own design, escape, and manners and also discuss if any were able to find any type of relief. I know that many turn to prostitution which often end in even more violent even terminal meaning deadly endings. It was brought up in areas which somehow were able to make a differences, through neighborhood programs such as the Neighborhood Boys Clubs and the Boy Scouts of America. We were able to find some relief as well as companionship which aided in temporary escapes from our own surroundings at home.
We are now in a period of reflection and it is through our own experiences and the discussion of these that we can perhaps shed light on these events and maybe even be able to help others. Not to long ago the victims voice was unable to cry out loud with anyone actually listening. I remember how years ago as my mother cared for a young boy who suffered from autism how his father actually sold him and was able to do so dispite my mothers attempts to intervene. Another event which occurred while my wife and I were dating. During which time she provided child care for a blended military family. Because most of these children were at our house on a regular basis we saw signs of abuse in large bruises which were clearly visible on two of the children, these were twin boys from his side from a previous marriage, the other children were seemingly fine, yet despite our inquiries, and several attempts to bring this to the authorities, we were told that nothing could be done unless we actually witnessed the abuse, while it occurred.
Today although not our systems is not even close to being perfect, we have organizations which can intercede and act as advocates for these victims of abuse and help end the cycle. I encourage others to interact and to even aid this venue by simply posting any and all information regarding this topic. I know that there are also many who have no idea where to turn for lack of knowledge, as well as fear. peer pressures, and certainly many other types of intimidation. Please offer comment and lets see if we can help to turn this cycle around for the better.
